OUR APPROACH
Traditional couple’s counseling can sometimes feel like you’re walking into a gladiator arena; battling for the honor of being “right”. You might imagine your therapist's eyes darting from you to your partner and then back again, internally keeping score of your verbal tennis match.
We get you.
We’ve been in this situation as both a clinician and a client. There’s nothing fun about it and all three people leave the session feeling worse than when they walked in.
Our approach is uniquely structured to avoid these situations. Instead of trying to “fix” problems, we will lead you to growth opportunities in your conflicts. We encourage a spirit of childlike curiosity toward partners; practicing new ways of understanding and appreciating the other. When we put aside our preconceived ideas about what we “know” to be true, we open up to reawakened wonder.
DO YOU...
Want to ensure your connection is strong from the start of a new relationship?
Want more fun and passion in your relationship?
Want to improve your communication skills?
Want to prevent your relationship from ending in separation or divorce?
WE CAN HELP
WHAT IS IMAGO
“The Latin word “imago”—meaning “image”—refers to the “unconscious image of familiar love.” What we find is that there is frequently a connection between frustrations in adult relationships and early childhood experiences. As an example, individuals frequently criticized as a child will likely be highly sensitive to their partner’s criticism. Childhood feelings of abandonment, suppression or neglect will often arise in a marriage or committed relationship.
When such “core issues” repeatedly come up with a partner, they can overshadow all that is good in a relationship and leave one to wonder whether he or she has chosen the right mate.
Through Imago Relationship Therapy, couples can learn to understand each other’s feelings and “childhood wounds” more empathically, allowing them to heal themselves and their relationships so they can move toward a more ‘Conscious Relationship‘“. www.HarvilleandHelen.com.
HOW IMAGO IS DIFFERENT
If you‘ve been to relationship or marriage counseling before, your experience might have gone something like this; You and your spouse nervously walk into the office, sit on opposite ends of the couch and start airing your grievances. Eventually things get heated and the therapist ends up as the referee in the same fight you’ve had a thousand times. Sound familiar?
When you begin imago therapy, you’ll notice that the focus is not on you or your partner, but on the space between you. Your relationship becomes the “client” in the counseling process.
You and your partner are the experts on your relationship and we will treat you as such.
We will work along side of you, creating a safe space to grow into deeper connection with each other.